Wednesday, 4 May 2011

'8 Barriers to Communication & How to Overcome Them' by Kevin Hogan and Ron Stubbs

according to '8 Barriers to Communication & How to Overcome Them' by Kevin Hogan and Ron Stubbs, these are the barriers:

  1. failure to make a great first (and second impression)
    • mirror the other person style
    • the lead
    • lead with your tune of talking
  2. flubbing the story
    • what is the intention in telling the story
    • why
    • would the story create misunderstanding
  3. forgetting the art of listening
    • listen instead of hear
    • let the person speak his version of the story
    • help someone create himself by listening to him
    • know the audience, use discrimination and avoid jokes
    • a good listener is a a brilliant conversationalist
  4. arguing with the intent to harm
    • discuss the issue with fact
  5. criticism & being too 'honest'
    • destructive criticism is meant to hurt/ humiliate, manipulate/ control, blame/ create gain, get attention
    • criticize the behaviour
    • don't demean: first empathy then critic
    • critic on behaviour which can be changed
    • create a conversation which show 'togetherness' to solve the problem
    • make sure people know that you're criticize at
    • don't belabor the point
    • look for non-verbal communication
    • avoid comparing people
    • ask for specific change
    • don't set a tone of anger etc
    • show you understand how's the other person feeling
    • reread writing on critic
    • start of with something good
    • reaffirm your support and confidence to the person
  6. hostility and contempt
    • labeling
    • non-verbal
    • covert insults and humiliation
  7. ignoring the non-verbal communication
  8. ignoring the cycle of effective communication
    • make people special
    • create a safe environment
    • let a person have a moment of spotlight
    • treat people as you want people to treat you
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